My wife has a friend that recently met a guy, blind date style. She told my wife when she gets to the restaurant that the guy was really not her type. She sat there really uncomfortable. Once the meal was eaten, they parted ways. When he called to see if she enjoyed the date, she refuses to answer any calls. She feels he’ll get the message. What is the proper way, if any, to handle a situation like this? Do you eat the meal and then ignore the person? Or not even stay at all?
MY RESPONSE:
The old me, would have left her sitting there alone. But, being incarcerated 16 years has shown me that there is something inside people that the outside cannot compete with. I have met people while being in here and their families that are beautiful beyond words. So, I would stay for dinner with this unattractive person. We may have a lot in common and it turns out to be something bigger. Not just a relationship but a friendship can come out of it. I think her friend is being childish by ignoring the calls. Everyone is entitled to be attracted to who and what they like. But I don’t think she should leave the guy wondering. DO TO OTHERS AS YOU WANT DONE TO YOU.
I agree she should be an adult and plainly explain that he isn't her type doesn't mean he isn't suitable for someone else. Also consider if he would be a good friend to keep around. Everyone is so fixated on looks they forget what is purely on the inside. Looks don't determine whether the person a hard worker, a good person, willing to commit. So sad she out her playing dodge ball!